Jun 19, 2010
If you are honest with yourself, you know at least one time when you really wanted to get back at someone. Someone had you that upset. They'd done something, or perhaps it is what they did not do. Regardless of the specifics, what you actually wanted was revenge. The only folks I know of who might not have had that urge in their life are still in diapers.
So, what do you do when the urge calls to get even? For some, the queston is not "what do you do?", but "what did you do?" Of course, that can be dangerous. It might perpetuate something, and give that other person another excuse. Or, if there has been enough time, it might re-awaken issues which everyone but you assumed were in the past.
But you feel that not doing anything about it would also be wrong. After all, you were wronged. You were hurt. You are a person, not a doormat.
But spending energy about something in the past is a way of looking backwards, and if you are looking backwards to the past, you are not looking forward toward what is waiting ahead of you.
So, how do you deal with all of those apparent contradictions?
Let's see what might be able to be done!